Do I know how to take care of myself?

WE cannot run away from situations. We struggle everyday at work with people , family etc. We have to face them. Learn to see which situation is that and then deal with it. If something create stress, that means action is required.


Physically.......We all know how to take care of ourselves in a physical world, like

Not to hit the other car to avoid accident and
Exercise to stay healthy and
Drink water so we do not get dehydrated etc
Wash hands so we do not catch cold.

Emotionally....... Do I know how to take care of myself?

Not to take in others negativity in because that will create pain in myself.
Not to have collision of emotions with others as it will cause emotional accident.
If someone is very negative, they are hurting and they are in pain emotionally.

Relationships.....

Emotional taking care goes into our relationships and we try to change others. Remember , you can only change yourself not others.
We try to go head on like" let me give her peace of my mind". Let the situation calm down and the other party too and then have a talk to resolve the issue. It promotes effective communication.

Relationships are affected by

As soon as my friend started grade 11, her father started to tutor her at home though there was no comfort level between the two of them. She did not make it to the medical school, so her father stopped talking to her. She could not meet her fathers expectation, so hurt feelings were created with a result her relationship changed for the present. There was no energy exchange between the two of them.

1. Basis of a relationship is communication.
2. Past hurt feelings blocks energy flow.
3. Relationship is free flow of energy.
3. Accept that you hurt yourself ( helps to forget the past because you created the hurt, no one else, others did not ask you to get hurt while arguing etc)
4. Past hurt affects the
5. Present behaviour( children may be afraid to get hurt again).
6. Future Insecurity because of energy blockage that creates a wall in a relationship.

Do whatever to improve the relationships because we are happy when we have good relations with people. Basically break the barrier to move forward in relationships. You created the barrier or emptiness , so you break it or fill it..

Relationship of Project Manager with other membersrs

Sometimes project does not go right, time deadlines etc etc, let us say that a member made a mistake and project did not get delivered at the right time. Probably the member is already feeling very guilty because she/ he let the team down.

Do not yell or give any advice at that time.

Team member is already embarrased. Empower the person, provide whatever help the other members can give at that time, bring the confidence up and then when every one's energy level is normal or stable, then may be things can be talked about. Emotions are very important. Communication at that time should be done with the right energy transfer. Communication will be effective.

Try the same with the parent and child relationship. Do not yell the day when chips are down already. Let everyone have their emotional energy up and then talk about it for an effective result.

Frequent washroom trips

I love drinking a cup of tea but after that there is urgency to go to the washroom. Lately there is so much talk about organic stuff, so I was thinking of getting some organic tea which is very expensive. I guess God was listening that my sister decided to give me a box of Organic tea. I was amazed to see that after drinking it , I did not need frequent washroom trips. I was sooooo happy that I realized the effect of chemicals and pesticides etc on our body. I have decided to drink organic tea as long as I can afford it .