We can only change ourselves not others. Sooner we learn that better it gets for us.
"Let it be" is another phrase we should learn. Let people learn the life lessons at their own pace but we parents do not want our children to make the same mistakes we made.
We take responsibility to change others by interfering in others life. We drain our energy telling others what they should do.
Parents want their children to do this or that so the parents can be happy. Same way for husband wife relationship as well. These are the relationships that are suffering the most. One is trying to control the other.
Why is he/ she behaving like that is a common concern or control.
Are we saying that our happiness should depend on our child's behaviour or so on sos behaviour, then you will never be happy. Parent is trying to change the child to make themselves happy. There is lot of controlling goes on by the parent in child's life to change childs personality. Parent controlling the child might create the distance in the relationship. Show them by role modelling if you want them to learn something. Remember they have their karma to follow.
They have their own journey.
But happiness is inside us. We are born with happiness except it is covered with some dust, so meditate to remove the dirt.
Our job is to take care of our children's soul, clothe them, guide them ,look after them but not control them.
There is a generation gap between the child and the parent. If there is disagreement, say your concerns and give your reasons. Be willing to accept, then there is energy flow and keep the communication open and parents should be willing to hear and accept the truth. Do not create walls in the relationships. Stubbornness and resistance can enter very quickly. Things can change slowly but do it lovingly and happily.
Be a mentor, let people be the way they want to be. Every soul has its journey to follow.
Change yourself, do not try changing others lives.
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